Marital Rituals Part 2: Daily Connection Rituals

In an earlier blog, I addressed the significance of implementing rituals as a way of experiencing a marital relationship that is personal and fulfilling rather than founded on logistics and routine. I included three components that distinguish a ritual. Rituals are repeated, coordinated, and significant. If you’d like, click here to read more about marital rituals in my earlier blog.

Over the next few weeks, I’ll share information to increase understanding of rituals through exploring the various kinds. Research supports the premise that when rituals are implemented, they help grow the stability, safety, love, and pride we feel in our marriages. Today, let’s look at daily connection rituals.

Connection rituals are social interactions that are incorporated into the activities of everyday living. I LOVE daily connection rituals for several reasons. First, most of them require very little effort. Second, as we identify what we are already doing and become more intentional about them many easily evolve into a ritual. Finally, I love them MOST OF ALL because of how much return is achieved on this simple investment in our relationships.

Writing about marital rituals in his book “Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart,” Dr. Doherty explains:

“Almost anything can be turned into a ritual of connection, if the focus is on the relationship.”

As you begin to consider the things you and your spouse do to connect with each other throughout the day, remember the three important components to create or turn something into a ritual. They need to be repeated, coordinated with each other, and significant to both of you.

Here is a list of daily connection rituals others have shared they enjoy doing together:

As you can see from these few examples, anything that is focused on the relationship, are repeated, coordinated, and significant can become a daily connection ritual. The sky really is the limit. And we are only limited by our creativity and our own desires.

Begin today! And don’t hesitate to share! We learn more as we hear ideas others implement and how it works in their relationships.